Fw: What is Marriage? =)

Marriage has multiple meanings as stated below:

- Marriage is a relation between man and woman, which the independence is equal the dependence mutual and the obligation reciprocal.
- Marriage is a Ministry
- A divine Institution
- A paradox which feels sometimes like a state of confusion
- A total commitment of the total persons for a total life
- A three-sided relationship consisting of husband, wife and God, which is also known as “progressive togetherness”

Generally, marriage is a basic task or burden you have to carry throughout your life as husband and wife. Your partner will not always please you by 100%, due to your biological or background differences & also because he/she is not an Angel.

A husband’s protectiveness over his wife also saves her from spiritual attacks. Marriage, most especially when a woman lives under the protection of her husband, she can move with great freedom in spiritual things as well as all other matters.

BASIC NEEDS OF MARRIAGE:
The basic need or requirements in a marriage is “compatibility”.
Without compatibility, marriage can never stand or live in peace and harmony. Moreso, its’ mostly enjoyable (partially) when they both have similar vision.
Pray together constantly for stabilization of sincere love. Stick to your marriage vows despite all the odds and attractions in the society. Endeavour to isolate from whatsoever that could lead you into a trap that may tarnish your marriage.

Men side:
As a man you should be in best position to support and encourage your wife along the line of her vision, knowing that she’s the weaker vessel and not celebrating her few mistakes, exaggerate her challenges or keep silent on her successes. IT’S VERY WRONG!

As a husband or even those in courtship, have to plan things with your wife, not you planning alone. This will enable her know your level of forwardness and in that case there won’t be any misunderstanding. Learn to plan things ahead of time along with your wife. Be the chief reminder & organizer of every of your family and personal – (Wife & Husband) celebration & learn to appreciate her.

Note: The law of focus says: Anything you meditate on grows inside you, what you spend the majority of your life thinking about is what you end up becoming. Therefore, think about each other daily, the way you usually think about your job or business.
You need to spend quality time with each other to enable you know your dos & don’ts, so that you can avoid critical misunderstanding. Often share your view & ideas together.

BUILD YOUR HOME/MARRIAGE WITH CHRIST:
“We wouldn’t think of building a stone fireplace without stones or of baking an apple pie without apples. Why then are so many people trying to build Christian homes without Christ? They try to maintain Christian principles, establish a Christian home & even use Christian terminology, but without the presence of Christ, there cannot be a Christian home. The great and holy God must be fulfilling in that home. He must be leaving in the hearts of those who call that house home.
Constantly allow Jesus to be the “extra ordinary strategies” in your marriage. And be fully hypnotized by HIS Words.

IN CASE OF CONFLICT OR CONFUSION PERIOD:
Learn to use “I” message instead of “you” message.
“I” messages makes us communicate our own feelings and take responsibility for them. They give others & mostly your spouse information about us. It simply means – we’re being more open. They suspend blame and improve trust & also help good communication.

“You” messages do the opposite & “get at” other people and make critical judgments.
They give little information about us & block further discussion.

THE SECRETE OF MARRIAGE:
The secret of marriage is simply - “Mutual understanding”.
Understanding bridges the dialogue of misunderstanding & grant you an enjoyable & peaceful marriage.

Spending time together & talking helps to prevent misunderstanding, but lack of communication builds up resentments. When we are open to each other & give more information about our inner thought & feelings, it usually improves our understanding & makes us slower to blame.

All these above explanations are mostly what marriage is all about. Unfortunately some who are not yet married only focus on saying –
“I want to get married”, thinking that marriage is just all about bed of roses, without knowing the real meaning of it. Including those already into marriage, still not fully aware of the broad meaning of marriage and these are part of the reasons why some are collapsing in this our recent society.

Anyway, I’m sure you have gained from this teaching & I hereby advice you to start applying it in your home from today, to enable you enjoy a romantic & peaceful marriage, to the glory of God.

The Lord will see you through!=)

Joy Ulumma Levi
joy_onlineministration@yahoo.com
www.joyulumma.blogspot.com